This is HARD!
First of all, I find it impossible to stay positive all the time, even the majority of the time, but I would like to think I am learning how to be less negative and not to always fear the worse!
I am trying to do the following -
1. Keep a record of positive things they say or do even if these things seem very small.
2. To put the difficult times to one side and move on. Learn from them but not dwell on them.
3. Talk to others in similar situations
4. Remember self care and make time to do it
5. Use distraction techniques for self and child - laughter, singing and music
6. Get enough sleep, I am always more positive if I am less tired
Thoughts
When I do the above I cope better, am generally "more chilled out" and this is picked up by my children. They visibly relax more and are "nicer" to me. I can't do it all the time, but am getting better. I hold onto the fact that "no matter what" I love them (even if I find their behaviour at times deeply upsetting) and that deep down they love us even if they can't show it at the time.
As simple as those tips are, they are so hard at the same time! But it is so true that the better we are to ourselves, the better parents we are. Also, thanks for the reminder to get more sleep, I needed that bit right now!
ReplyDeleteI also struggle with staying positive, but I try to do similar things to you...easier said than done though sometimes hey?
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